The 12 Laws of Love

Many people are quick and swift at pointing fingers at their Spouse as though they are perfect creatures married to an imperfect being. Well, the truth is that your Partner may not really be the problem; Every so often our Partners are a product of how we are.

Today I want to share about destructive relationship spirits. These are the parts of our character that sabotage our relationships, if not subdued. When they arise, we do not see the other person but to fixate on ourselves. It is important to identify your own destructive spirits first and acknowledge that sometimes your relationship stops working not because of externalities, but because you are knowingly/unknowingly engaging bad spirits.

Introversion can be hereditary or a personality preference, based on the way a person has been shaped by experiences and life. You may be an introvert yourself, or are surrounded by extroverts. Perhaps you are an extrovert with an introvert child, friend or spouse – introverts can be found anywhere. Often, introverts are fueled more by their inner thoughts and reflections rather than by social engagements and interactions with others. Extroverts are the exact opposite, being alone and silent are the worst enemies of an extrovert.

We get into relationships to connect. The danger of connecting is that we can lose ourselves in the process. Remember we cannot control our partners we can only control ourselves. Let us evaluate our personal relationship principles, these are the values that will guide us in having productive and healthy connections.

Throughout the month of January, my theme has been set around preparation for 2018. Today’s is no different, I want to talk about another critical part of our journey in 2018 and this involves people. We can never get away from people. People are necessary partners in achieving goals and visions. People can either propel or contribute to your stagnation or stress. Cooperative people are easy to deal with, but how do you function when faced with difficult people? Difficult people can sabotage plans set at work, at home, in church and in our general journey of life.

Proverbs 29:18 “where there is no vision the people perish.” Every so often, the organizations we work for break away to set out plans and strategies. They evaluate progress made, challenges faced and make adjustments to match well formulated visions. But when it comes to our families, we often plan as we go. We hope that the things in our heads will come to pass by chance. However, in reality for a family to work, it needs direction which leads to growth. Growth is a product of vision.