Relating with Introverts

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Introversion can be hereditary or a personality preference, based on the way a person has been shaped by experiences and life. You may be an introvert yourself, or are surrounded by extroverts. Perhaps you are an extrovert with an introvert child, friend or spouse – introverts can be found anywhere. Often, introverts are fueled more by their inner thoughts and reflections rather than by social engagements and interactions with others. Extroverts are the exact opposite, being alone and silent are the worst enemies of an extrovert.

By AwakeningMinds

By Victor Salamba

Relationships between introverts and extroverts can be challenging if not properly managed by both factions. Extroverts frequently misunderstand introverts and vice versa for the introverts and this greatly frustrates them both. Each one would rather prefer if the other was more introverted/extroverted depending on the temperament they hold/ascribe to.

How can extroverts build better relationships with introverts?

1. Do not assume. The biggest mistake extroverts make is to assume they understand introverts. They make wrong assumptions that strain their relationship. Do not assume the following:-

• That they have no opinion. Always remember that introverts naturally choose their words carefully and have few words.

• They are weak-willed and should grow to be leaders. Nothing is further from the truth. Introverts are more strong-willed than extroverts and are less prone to be influenced by peer pressure.

• They do not love having fun. They do love having fun, it’s just that their idea of fun and entertainment is not what extroverts would consider fun. Introverts may prefer staying in, and maybe silently reading a book alone.

2.They need time to build and develop relationships. They do not rush friendships as they take time to build trust. Do not confuse this for not anti-social behavior, they prefer to be strategic and gradually build meaningful relationships.

3. To introverts, being alone is not so bad. Introverts enjoy alone time. This is because they find more solace in their private thoughts than in conversations. To get positive response from introverts, let them have their alone time.

4. Express genuine and specific interests in their ideas and give time for response. Most introverts are strategic thinkers and not overly verbose. The mistake that most extroverts make is to confuse quick responses for intelligence. Introverts just like extroverts want to be appreciated. When you express interest in their ideas they feel comfortable with you and that will make them relate with you in a more open way.

5. Accept that they are different don’t try and change them. You cannot make anyone become like you or be like who you want them to be. Accept that they are different and learn to accommodate and be content with them the way they are.

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How To Know That You are A Terrorist In A Relationship

Many people are quick and swift at pointing fingers at their Spouse as though they are perfect creatures married to an imperfect being. Well, the truth is that your Partner may not really be the problem; Every so often our Partners are a product of how we are.

February 14, 2018

Published by Victor Salamba on February 14, 2018

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7 Spirits Destructive To Relationships

Today I want to share about destructive relationship spirits. These are the parts of our character that sabotage our relationships, if not subdued. When they arise, we do not see the other person but to fixate on ourselves. It is important to identify your own destructive spirits first and acknowledge that sometimes your relationship stops working not because of externalities, but because you are knowingly/unknowingly engaging bad spirits.

February 5, 2018

Published by Victor Salamba on February 5, 2018

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Personal Relationship Principles

We get into relationships to connect. The danger of connecting is that we can lose ourselves in the process. Remember we cannot control our partners we can only control ourselves. Let us evaluate our personal relationship principles, these are the values that will guide us in having productive and healthy connections.

January 26, 2018

Published by Victor Salamba on January 26, 2018

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Dealing With Difficult People

Throughout the month of January, my theme has been set around preparation for 2018. Today’s is no different, I want to talk about another critical part of our journey in 2018 and this involves people. We can never get away from people. People are necessary partners in achieving goals and visions. People can either propel or contribute to your stagnation or stress. Cooperative people are easy to deal with, but how do you function when faced with difficult people? Difficult people can sabotage plans set at work, at home, in church and in our general journey of life.

January 19, 2018

Published by Victor Salamba on January 19, 2018

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Preparing a Vision For Your Family

Proverbs 29:18 “where there is no vision the people perish.” Every so often, the organizations we work for break away to set out plans and strategies. They evaluate progress made, challenges faced and make adjustments to match well formulated visions. But when it comes to our families, we often plan as we go. We hope that the things in our heads will come to pass by chance. However, in reality for a family to work, it needs direction which leads to growth. Growth is a product of vision.

January 12, 2018

Published by Victor Salamba on January 12, 2018

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Relating with Introverts

Personal Relationship Principles

7 Spirits Destructive To Relationships