In life we often talk about the Intelligence quotient (IQ) which measures the ability to deduce and reason. The higher one scores on this scale, the more intelligent one is considered. A little less discussed is the Emotional Quotient EQ which measures one’s level of emotional maturity. The higher the measure of EQ the better the quality of our relationships. The least talked about is the Attitude Quotient (AQ) which we will discuss at a later stage.
Today’s teaching is focused on the EQ, which is just as important as IQ and AQ. Every so often, it is helpful to take stock of the level of emotional maturity that we possess, especially since life is constantly changing and presenting us with both difficult events as well as moments of triumph. How well do you measure? Do you take criticism as important points of growth? Is your defense mechanism tears when confronted with a mistake you made? Can you have a sober, civil, conversation when conflict arises between you and your spouse, colleague, children, parents, siblings etc.? The better you handle scenarios like the preceding the higher you score on the EQ.
Take the following test by answering the questions listed and score yourself between 0-10, 0 being the lowest level of EQ and 10, the highest. As you take the test, remember that time is not a healer, time is a bank! When you are hurt by an event in your life, you must confront the issue and heal from it. Don’t set it aside and wait for ‘time to heal’. The more often you do this, the more emotional maturity you accrue and this makes for better relationships all round as you are devoid of bitterness, hurt, lack of forgiveness and anger!
EMOTIONAL HEALTH TEST
10 questions to determine our emotional health. (you can take it yourself, and then let your partner score you as well, to see if the scores tally)
For each question, if you are fully mature score 1, if maturity level is average, score 0.5, if maturity level is high score 1. Ok let’s go…..
1. Ability to express physical verbal affection to your spouse’s satisfaction;
2. Ability to empathize, emotionally healthy people think of other people (unselfish);
3. Ability to address issues in a timely and civil manner;
4. Ability to take responsibility of your behavior in a timely and humble manner;
5. Ability to receive complaints and criticism in a graceful manner;
6. Ability to process negative emotions;
7. Ability to be vulnerable and express weakness without shame;
8. Ability to have a good attitude in the midst of crisis;
9. Ability to give to others who do not reciprocate to you;
10. Ability to honestly and openly communicate in a timely and gracious manner.
