Intimacy, as we discussed last week is a state of complete oneness, a place in a relationship where we no longer want to be given but to give, a place where there are no inhibitions, I can be my true self and not fear being rejected. Before discussing how we can build intimacy it is also very advisable to discuss what the obstacles to intimacy are.
1. Withdrawal: withdrawal happens when one or both of the parties involved has decided to pull away emotionally. Putting an invisible wall between them and their partners. They periodically become cold and unresponsive to the other person’s advances or actions be they positive or negative. Withdrawal is when one makes a deliberate decision to pull away as a way of protecting themselves from being hurt or disappointed.
2. Emotional Pressure: This when one or both partners become too demanding. And the demands only favour them without thinking that it may be draining the next person. Emotional pressure is love/romance by force. You do things not because you enjoy, but because it is demanded of you. This hinders freedom and authenticity and where the two are absent, intimacy can never be born.
3. Sexual Frustration: This is when one or both parties are silently angry and resentful due to lack of sex or how the sex makes them feel. Sexual frustration creates a fixation on the act instead of the person the feeling rather than the person. Sexually frustrated people are angry and snappish this makes it difficult to approach them and be close to them.
